At last, it’s here… and there are no excuses left to stop you… this straightforward none jargonised ‘Male Only’ programme focuses on the ‘decision-making-process’ we all use every day to create the actions we take and in turn, the lifestyles we have.
This programme supports the man you were meant to be and almost certainly the man you want to be.
As a male, it’s without a doubt that we all go through many different changes throughout our lives and lots of these changes have huge impacts. From being boys to teenagers and then onto becoming men with all the different lifestyles we explore and experience. Going to work, receiving and spending the contents of your first wage packet, going to university, setting up businesses, finding a niche in a company that feeds your passion and sees your progression through the ranks. Your first kiss and sex for the first time. Finding someone to love, creating an amazing home and all the rewards that come with ‘living your dream’.
All these different stages in life bring change, the good and the not so good all impact on how you present yourself from being sons, brothers and buddies right through to boyfriends, husbands and fathers. From starting paper rounds and grass cutting through to business leaders and high-end thinkers and everything in between, they have all had huge changes in how you live your life and more importantly… how you present yourself.
There are times; however, when the rewards you get, no longer feed your passions or requirements for your happiness and life becomes monotonous and frustrating, to say the least. You get that ‘Groundhog Day’ thought creeping into your awareness and in most circumstances, this ‘Groundhog Day’ thought soon evolves into the SSDD thought… ‘Same Shit Different Day’ and before you know it, you find yourself numb to your passion, potential and purpose. You just keep on doing what it is you are doing living life on the far side of complexity, trying to keep everything in order. Whether it is financial, material or emotional gains you feel that you are under par… a time comes when you know it’s time to change…
So, if you have got to that point when ‘enough is enough’, and you’re looking to stop doing the things you are no longer wanting to be doing and start doing the things you want to be doing… This may just be what it is you have been looking for.
Just take a little time right now to reflect on the changes you have already gone through throughout your life. Think about how much easier and effective it would have been to have discussed some of the ‘finer points of detail’ of those changes and decisions that were in front of you.
Ensure the next decisions you take are not reactional decisions and just covering your short-term requirements, make responsive decisions and link them into your bigger picture. I know we have all been told that we shouldn’t assume anything, but I’m going to assume that if you are still reading this then the concept of gaining an effective and efficient decision-making process and ‘Letting the boy die to allow the man to live’ is of interest to you, so let me explain a little bit of the ethos behind this ‘Male Only’ programme.
With over 30 years of working with a diverse range of males from the top 2% of offenders right through to high-level company directors and business leaders, I have found a commonality that is shared by so many, the desire to find what really makes them happy and successful in life. Whether it is just having a full-time job and a family home filled with love and care or consolidating resources to create a perfect life in the sun… there is no better emotion to feel than knowing who you are, what you want to do and having a tangible process to achieve it all. ‘Let the boy die to allow the man to live’ has been a focal point of discussions for many years with ‘males’ of all ages going through one of Beyond the Mask programmes.
This change management programme is inspired by the experiences and impacts of my own decision-making as well as exploring the experiences and impacts with others and their decision making. On reflection it is very clear to me and from what I’m also told so very frequently too is this… Going back to when I was a young teenager and many many times since then… if I would have had the opportunity to discuss ‘me’ as an individual and the impacts that my possible decisions could have had before I made them … I know many things would have turned out very different from the way they did.
This programme is not just about talking about who you are and what you want to change or how you want to live your life. It’s about understanding and applying a process that ensures the decisions you make are the best-informed decisions that suit exactly who it is you want to be and what it is you want to do… it is a programme that you will embed into your personal decision-making process ensuring a consistency to the outcomes you require and recieve.
It doesn’t take too much effort or take that long to reflect over many of the unwise discussions that have been made in your past and quickly see what state your ‘mindset’ was in at those points. For most of the decisions, we make in haste are generally created from a reactive mindset. Having a reactive mindset doesn’t just have an impact on the decisions made and how they get translated into actions… but also the impact on the way you live your life after making these decisions.
For me, the regularity of making poor decisions with a reactional inexperienced young boy mindset was something that needed to change for certain… but how I was to do that was something that escaped me for many of my younger years. ‘Let the boy die to allow the man to live’ is supporting those males who have come to realise that the one thing that men have historically been bad at is the single biggest change they need to go through to become the best version of themselves yet… which is to ‘talk’ about who they really are and what they really want to do in a constructive environment. This single biggest change has a commonality with all levels of success in life and is something that is growing experientially. This change is giving men of all ages the inspiration, the motivation and energy to find their very best version of themselves yet… and more importantly, this ‘very best version of themselves yet’ is created and suited perfectly to who they are and what lifestyle they want to live.
There are opportunities to embark on this programme within a group-work setting within your area or for those that would prefer to do it on a one to one basis; there are a limited number of opportunities to do this also.
Its time gentleman… and here is your first challenge…
Do you now react, or will you respond?
Looking forward to hearing your decision…